One of the most powerful ways parents can model this value is through the practice of repairing with their child after a difficult moment. Dr Becky Kennedy, a clinical psychologist and parenting expert, explores this beautifully in her TED Talk “The single most important parenting strategy”, viewed over three million times. She reminds us that everyone loses their temper sometimes, but what truly matters is how we reconnect afterwards. 

Repairing teaches children that relationships are not about being perfect, but about taking responsibility and rebuilding trust. It helps them develop resilience, confidence and empathy - the heart of ‘failing forward.’ 

Here are a few simple ways parents can practise repair:

• Acknowledge the mistake: ‘I am sorry I raised my voice. That was not fair to you.’ 
• Name the impact: ‘I can see that I hurt your feelings.’ 
• Offer a plan for next time: ‘Next time I feel frustrated, I will take a deep breath before I speak.’ 
• Reconnect: A hug, a walk, or reading together can restore warmth and safety.

When we model repair, our children learn that failure is not something to fear, but a stepping stone to growth and stronger connection. That is what it means to truly Fail Forward - to try, reflect, repair and keep going with grace.

Jaki Graham

Director of Junior Primary